by Katherine Green
When I pushed through the movie theatre doors for Trainwreck, clutching my oversized bag of popcorn and thanking god that this film wasn’t in 3D, I was excited to see an empowering chick flick with a badass female lead who also wrote the script and looked like the average woman.
As the advertisements started, I began to feel guilty that I was bringing my boyfriend to what had clearly been a selfish attempt to have my cake and eat it too – a girl’s night type film that I was craving while spending quality time with me partner. With the first few scenes chocked full of Amy having care-free sex and inserting inside jokes that only those with a vagina would probably understand, I didn’t anticipate this would be a movie he would like. But after the credits rolled and we stood up to leave, he instantly told me that he loved it.
Trainwreck isn’t just a feel-good comedy about being a strong, independent woman – it’s a well-rounded film with just as many deep, touching scenes as brilliant, comedic ones. Amy works as a writer at an established magazine, has a cool apartment and is living like a 20-something-year-old Carrie Bradshaw – if Sex and the City were more about the women’s personal lives rather than their relationships with men. When she’s not going out partying, Amy’s spending time with her sister and taking care of her dad who lives in assisted living. It’s clear she doesn’t need a man to complete her life – and the fact that she finds a good one isn’t even the plot of this story.
Amy, who’s damaged from her previously distant dad who left their family and ingrained it into her brain that monogamy isn’t realistic, lives a destructive life that so many women experience today. She uses drinking, smoking and sex to numb the pain of craving emotional intimacy – and when she finds a guy who actually wants more than sex from her, she freaks the fuck out, wondering when he’s going to find something wrong with her. This is a story that’s all too common, and coming from someone who’s personally lived through it, I really resonated with Amy’s character.
As the viewer watches Amy navigate through the avoidance of intimacy to being in love to the heartbreak of losing her dad, it’s difficult not to want to emoticon all over the place. There are so many feels that by the time you leave the theatre you feel like you’ve had a therapy session with your best girlfriends. I think my boyfriend understands me a lot better now because of Amy’s film, and I definitely understand me better as well.
Trainwreck is definitely one of those movies that you need to not only see in theatres but purchase so that you have it on your shelf every time you need a good laugh, cry or both.
Originally published at Flurt Magazine. Re-posted with permission.