One Size Doesn’t Fit All: Talking to Youth about Body Image

by | May 19, 2012
filed under Feminism, Pop Culture

Last month I did something really brave – I set aside my fears of public speaking and co-facilitated workshops for junior high girls on body image and beauty standards. The workshop is a tool developed by Hopewell Eating Disorder Support Centre to raise awareness of body image concerns. It covers a range of topics such as:

I observed two disturbing trends throughout the series of presentations. First, the narrowness of beauty ideals being taught to our youth was clearly demonstrated when we asked how women are portrayed in the media. At every workshop the very first answer was “skinny”. The only other answer provided was that women in the media are made to look “perfect” with no flaws like acne, moles, scars or wrinkles.

We then asked the same question but about men. The first (and only) answer given was “muscular” with elaborations like “six-packs” and “ripped”. Second, I was taken aback by some of the reactions to the before and after photos we showed to demonstrate the extensive use of Photoshop in ad campaigns.  There were gasps and a chorus of “ewws” when the before photos showed wrinkles, rolls and acne.

But the workshops yielded many rewarding moments. We were asked incredibly insightful questions which segued into discussions about misleading advertising (mascara commercials using false lashes on models for instance), the reasons why magazines continue to use Photoshopped images knowing the harmful impact on readers, and why you cannot equate “thin” with healthy or “fat” with unhealthy.

As someone who has struggled with body acceptance in the past I am passionate about having an open, honest dialogue with youth. Sadly, when I asked the students if anyone had ever talked to them about these issues the overwhelming majority of them said no. So who IS talking to our youth about body image? Cosmopolitan magazine, America’s Next Top Model and MTV.

Yikes. What makes this even scarier is that the methods used to achieve these unrealistic beauty ideals are often damaging, including anorexia, bulimia, laxative abuse, plastic surgery, botox and liposuction. Surgery complications and disordered eating can result in a lifetime of health complications, mental health concerns and even death.

Yet the beauty industry keeps churning out narrower standards and new products to meet them. Just consider the two latest “beauty fads” to make the news – vaginal bleaching to “lighten” the color of your vagina and the “feed-tube diet”. Imagine shoving a feed-tube up your nose with the lovely side-effects of bad breath and constipation just to lose weight temporarily for a big event, or risking kidney failure and cancer for the sake of a lighter colored vagina!  What’s next?!

Want to learn more?
This article from Beauty Redefined examines the impact of exposure to digitally altered images on our minds.
Another great article from Beauty Redefined examines the progression of the “thin ideal” by looking at the advent of the BMI, historical figures of beauty and the connection between health and weight.
“Stop Hating Your Body (SHYB)” is a great place to explore if you want more insight on the scope of this issue. The tumblr is a library of true stories posted by individuals struggling to overcome body hatred, disordered eating, feelings of failure, suicidal ideations and social pressure to conform to an unrealistic beauty ideal.  (*Trigger warning for individuals recovering from eating disorders or self-harming behaviors).

The REAL Body Revolution is my tumblr where I am building a library of images of REAL beauty to combat the current narrow and false ideals.


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