‘Dear Future Husband’: Will Trainor Ever Get it Right?

by | April 1, 2015
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Still from "Dear Future Husband" showing Meghan Trainor scrubbing the floor on her hands and knees

Meghan Trainor’s new song, Dear Future Husband, while undeniably catchy, has received harsh criticism for the blatantly sexist video that goes with it. In the video, Trainor is seen in 1950s-style sets and clothing, and her lyrics and sexist portrayal of a wife bring 1950s-style misogyny to her song.

She starts the song innocently enough, addressing her future husband telling him what he needs to do to secure a place in her life. She needs him to take her out, “and don’t forget the flowers every anniversary,” because if she’s treated well, she’ll “be the perfect wife, buying groceries, buy-buying what you need.”

Not completely innocent, but not as bad as the bridge, where she pulls the worst line I’ve heard since Blurred Lines, saying: “You gotta know how to treat me like a lady/Even when I’m acting crazy, tell me everything’s all right.”

Can we all just agree to stop calling women crazy? Emotional does not equal crazy (also let’s just agree to stop using this word casually, in general – it’s ableist).

Trainor then goes on to say: “After every fight just apologize and maybe then I’ll let you rock my body right. Even if I was wrong, you know I’m never wrong, why disagree?”

She’s basically saying that as long as her future husband agrees with her and lets her always be right, she’ll give him what he wants: sex. She further elaborates in the next verse, saying:  “Open doors for me and you might get some kisses,” then again later when she says: “If you wanna get that special loving, tell me I’m beautiful each and every night.”

Essentially, Trainor’s husband must be a perfectly misogynistic gentleman, and in return she won’t cook, or really do anything else for him, other than have sex with him. Because we all know that’s all wives are good for anyway, right?

Let’s not even talk about how similar her song sounds to Olly Murs’ Dance With Me Tonight, or how this isn’t even the first time she’s appeared to blatantly copy one of her songs from another artist.

Will Trainor ever get it right?

Meanwhile multiple news sources are completely missing the point, berating fans for calling Trainor out on her misogyny. The Federalist published an article titled “How Dare Meghan Trainor Or Any Woman Look Forward To Marriage?” Sorry but who said this has anything to do with the simple act of wanting to get married?

Other sources are somehow completely ignoring Trainor’s misogyny and are instead inserting their own, claiming her outfits or her scrubbing her kitchen floor is sexist.

Let me put it this way, you can wear what you want and get on your hands and knees and scrub your bathroom floor if it pleases you and still be a kick-ass feminist.

While there have been many critiques about Dear Future Husband, it seems as though most people still support her – over 70% of respondents on an online poll said they didn’t find the video sexist at all.

Her song does have some merit—women should be told they’re beautiful and get to have their own jobs. It’s not terrible to expect a little extra polite-ness from a potential groom, either.

But, like other songs of Trainor’s, you should take Dear Future Husband with a big grain of salt.


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  • Katie

    I do find the outfits and the floor-scrubbing completely sexist! It was not so long ago that it was acceptable to pronounce that a woman’s place was in the kitchen. I don’t care if you’re a stay-at-home mum, I’m pretty sure you don’t post pictures of yourself to Facebook mopping the floor in a dress and your frilliest apron and pretend that it’s the highlight of your day. Pretty sure your primary goal in life isn’t to sit at home waiting for your honey to come through the door. She is portraying some sort of nostalgia for the fifties’ domestic set-up and it’s gross.

  • Guest

    And who the hell calls a song ‘dear future husband’ anyway. Vomit.