Feminism F.A.Q.s: Do Feminists Hate Men?

by | April 8, 2012
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Feminism FAQs Title ScreenIn this episode of Feminism F.A.Q.s, I look at the myth that feminism involves hating men. For episodes 1 and 2 (“Why Do We Still Need Feminism” and “What is Feminism?”) click here. Got suggestions for a future episode? Comments on a  previous one? Post your feedback below!

This video was re-recorded on June 3 to fix the audio. 

H/T to The F Word UK for drawing my attention to the University of Houston study I referenced. For your information, the study is called “Are Feminists Man Haters? Feminists’ and Non Feminists’ Attitudes Toward Men” and is authored by Anderson, Kanner & Elsayegh. Published in June 2009 in the Psychology of Women Quarterly.

Read the full transcript of the video after the jump:

I’m Jarrah Hodge, writer and editor at Gender Focus, a Canadian feminist blog.  Welcome to Feminism FAQs, where I try to answer some questions and clear up some myths about feminism.

Today: Do feminists hate men?

This is something feminists get accused of a lot, but it doesn’t have much grounding in reality. What feminists “hate” is not men, but inequality and sexism.

Most feminists realize that it’s not individual men, but a system of gender inequality that’s the problem. In fact, a 2009 study out of the University of Houston showed that feminists registered less hostility towards men than non-feminists.

Feminism is about challenging the unequal society we live in. It means we have to examine the ways people of all genders are limited by the roles society has laid out for us. It means looking at double standards, like the way that we focus on a woman politician’s clothing rather than what she’s saying, or the way that we fail to pay attention to women athletes unless they put out a sexy public image.

Most feminists know that not all men are consciously perpetuating sexism. We also know that women are capable of perpetuating it too.

What we do ask of men who want to help our movement toward equality is to examine the privilege they experience – in the home, workplace, school, politics, sports – just for being born men.

Not all men will experience privilege in the same way, but it’s important to take an honest look.

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  • B

    Lies. All of this shit.

    This society is one where men constantly get shit on in the media and in family courts, never get to see their children, and spend years in jail due to false accusations of rape.

    And stupid cunts like you have the nerve to say feminists don’t hate men? You’re a goddamned liar, and I wish that someone kills you. Hopefully it will be me. I mean that with all my heart.

  • BWahaha!


  • Sophia

    oh my god

  • grampmk

    Well if one reads what feminists leaders are saying.

    “Only when manhood is dead – and it will perish when ravaged femininity no longer sustains it – only then will we know what it is to be free.”
    Andrea Dworkin

  • jarrahpenguin

    Just like there are different ideological viewpoints and practices among any large group of people so too there are “feminisms” and feminists are by no means united on every single thing.

    That said, Andrea Dworkin wrote that decades ago, at the same time as other less radical feminists proposed reforms rather than radical change. Dworkin wasn’t the only feminist voice of her time, and while I don’t agree with her on some key issues, I think her work deserves more consideration and thoughtful critique than just pulling out that quote allows.

    I would argue that now, sex-positive feminism (not necessarily always pro-porn but at least anti-censorship) occupies a significant portion of the feminist movement and even anti-porn feminists generally do not see heterosexual sex as inherently exploitative of women.

  • grampmk

    More comments

    Mangetout says:
    ” Males are the problem. They refuse to see
    that they are the problem.”
    Maggie H. says:
    “Womyn, having to put up with men’s shit, place the onus onto themselves to
    stop a bad situation from happening, while it is men who need a thorough
    discipline forced upon them.”
    White Tiger says:
    “..men have the same designation, in my view, of annoying rodents.”
    Journey Mistress says:”. .men are assholes. That last part bears repeating; men are assholes.”
    rjeenah says:
    “. . men are self-centered assholes who expect you to cater to their every whim . .”
    Dawnsister says:
    “I’ll take any revolution I can get. Any revolution that removes most of the males will do just fine.”

  • jarrahpenguin

    I’m not aware of any of these people being “feminist leaders” – the blogger at the first link has 33 followers. I guess it is harder to Google for what’s not there, though. If you look at the most popular feminist blogs like Feministing, Jezebel, Feministe (not to mention this blog) you will never see someone advocating violence against men. It would be nice if folks could actually try reading a broader range of feminist opinion rather than Googling to reinforce a negative opinion they already hold.

  • grampmk

    “I feel that ‘man-hating’ is an honourable and viable political act, that the oppressed have a right to class-hatred against the class that is oppressing them.” – Robin Morgan, Ms. Magazine Editor
    “To call a man an animal is to flatter him; he’s a machine, a walking dildo.” -– Valerie Solanas
    “I want to see a man beaten to a bloody pulp with a high-heel shoved in his mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig.” — Andrea Dworkin
    “Rape is nothing more or less than a conscious process of intimidation by which all men keep all women in a state of fear” — Susan Brownmiller
    “The more famous and powerful I get the more power I have to hurt men.” — Sharon Stone
    “In a patriarchal society, all heterosexual intercourse is rape because women, as a group, are not strong enough to give meaningful consent.” — Catherine MacKinnon
    “The proportion of men must be reduced to and maintained at approximately 10% of the human race.” — Sally Miller Gearhart
    “Men who are unjustly accused of rape can sometimes gain from the experience.” – Catherine Comins
    “All men are rapists and that’s all they are” — Marilyn French
    “Probably the only place where a man can feel really secure is in a maximum security prison, except for the imminent threat of release.” — Germaine Greer.
    The quotations above are from Kelly Mac’s blog. Kelly is ‘a woman against feminism’ because of its anti-male agenda. You can read more of Kelly Mac’s blog at http://awomanagainstfeminism.blogspot.com/

    Kelly sums it up nicely:

    “If you’re going to say feminism is not a man-hating movement, I’m going to have to insist that you provide links either to sites showing feminists condemning the statements listed above, or feminists telling women to respect men as men.”

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  • Deucalion

    Notice that the list of quotes above basically shoved any feminazi arguments back down thier throats.
    Silly women think noone is recording what they’re saying or paying attention.

  • i have unfortunatly made the decision to reject women. the only women that are worth my time are the ones whom earned my respect. i will not work for a woman or have any romantic involvement with them. my mother abused me as a child and i was also abused my many other women throughout my life in different ways. i think they are all dangerous people with malicious intentions toward men and i am scared of them now. i have gone ghost and have joined a mens rights group for comfort. any man that calls himself a feminist is an enemy of mine that deserves to get utterly destroyed by a women for no reason. the feminists cults out there want men to all be exterminated like the nazi’s killed the jews in world war 2. i would say this is cause for concern. remember mark lapeen that shot all those women in a montreal school? i do not condone murder of anyone but it dosnt surprise me that it happened. feminists are no better than the ku klux klan and i can see them bullying more men into snapping like that. why cant the feminists do something more constructive and work with mens rights groups together to solve human problems? we all want the same thing.

  • Very hard to get accurate studies around emotive issues. I look at it historically, and also across societies. In developing Islamic societies that I’ve seen, and perhaps developing ones generally, men are far more positively viewed than in developed Western, and now Asian societies. .
    Of COURSE feminism is source of negative attitudes toward men, it’s the force behind

  • Does anyone else think that ‘dave grohn’ up there is actually a woman trying the tried and true trick to paint men in a bad way, get applause for it, feel good about herself, and then wonder why her own life is not going well later?

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  • Pvblivs

    I look at B’s comment and I look at the first response. That first response is not an argument or evidence against anything he said. It is an attempt to get people not to listen through derisive laughter. It is a tactic used by people who know the facts are against them. Their only hope is that people don’t pay attention to the truth.

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  • After reading about the slew of #killallmen comments on Twitter this past week this video was welcoming. I also believe your message was sincere. My only question is why do feminist allow (I guess you could call them radical feminist) them to say such hateful comments without calling them out on it? By keeping quiet men only assume that the comments are representative of ALL feminist. Music isn’t about the notes only it’s also about the silent pauses in between.

  • aaron bone

    Jezebel wrote a piece where all of their editors talked about how they were all man beaters. I shit you not.

  • Mark

    “What we do ask of men who want to help our movement toward equality is to examine the privilege they experience – in the home, workplace, school, politics, sports – just for being born men.

    Not all men will experience privilege in the same way, but it’s important to take an honest look.”

    And in return can we men ask that all women here examine the privilege they experience – in the home, workplace, school, politics, sports – just for being born women?

    The privilege of not being forced or shamed into going to war for example.

    In WWII, the privilege of handing out white feathers to men who have not gone to war while being immune from accusations of cowardice simply because she born as a girl.

    The privilege of being able to make false rape accusations with impunity.

    The privilege of being able to hit a man, and still be seen as the “good guy”; to be praised, not punished for it.

    I could go on, but it’s late.

    So Jarrah, if you ask men to examine their privileges for being born male, are you willing to take an honest look at the privileges you experience just for being born female.

    Lead by example and let me know what you come up with.

    I will then follow suit in kind, and let you know what I come up with.

  • Rod

    Feminists don’t hate men. It’s just that they don’t have anything good to say about them in the name of their movement. Ever.